each day Brandon and i make it a point to put everything away, sit on the couch, cuddle in the bed, sit at the table and we talk. one thing about our relationship that everyone notices is that we have amazing 100% communication. we talk, about everything. there are no secrets between us which makes the rest of the relationship a breeze. don't get me wrong, we still have our ups and downs, on almost a daily basis, but we know that all issues need to be talked about by the end of the day.
one of my favorite things that we do, and i am almost positive it is one of his, is our dinners. we make it a point each and every day to sit at the table together, phones away (unless we are waiting for some call from his doctor) and enjoy each others company. it sounds odd to say that talking at dinner is one of my favorite things considering we spend a lot of time talking each and everyday, but the time at dinner is different. we shut off the world and focus on just the two of us. we talk about our day, we talk about things we have been discussing through out the day or past few days. most importantly, its our time. its a way for us to forget about stresses, fights, disagreements, or any negativity that is around us.
one thing i have noticed that is really over looked is that we never leave the dinner table with out a smile on our face. we make the time to hold each others hand off and on, give each other a kiss, and most importantly, thank each other for what they did to prepare the meal. it all seems simple and sappy, but at the same time it's all very important part of a relationship.
as much as we can, we try and prepare dinner together. if he is cooking i try and put together the sides. even if it is just throwing the veggies in the microwave. if he has all that done i try and set the table. dinner is our time where we connect, and are just us.
looking at it from an outside perspective it all seems so childish and so "fresh relationship," yet looking at it from that way point of view, i see it's what keeps our relationship fresh and alive. we never prepare a meal without giving each other a kiss and saying i love you. we never sit down at a meal without holding each others hand, leaning across and to give a kiss and say thank you for what you did.
today people forget about the importance of creating a simple meal together. they forget about the bonding experience between two people, or better yet a family that something as simple as creating dinner together can do. as you are in the kitchen preparing the food, setting the table, think about how you feel. think about the emotions shared between you two. nine times out of ten its smiles, laughter, and happiness. a feeling many of us miss in our daily lives, but until seen through someone else's eyes, we don't really realize exactly what is missing.
in our lives we make things so complicated. we make something that should be so simple, so hard and so outrageous that we don't want to take the time to do it. one thing i love about Brandon and i is that we are very simple and down to earth. we understand you don't need a main course with 15 sides to make a meal. something as simple as an open faced salisbury steak dinner with mashed potatoes is all a couple needs to pull them together.
i would be sitting there making the mashed potatoes as he is mixing the gravy and he would lean over with a smile on his face and give me a kiss and tell me how much he loves me. as he pulls the rest of the meal out of the oven i am setting the table. he dishes everything out into the containers as i put the finishing touches on the table as he brings the food over. we would sit down he would grab my hand and at the same time, not planned mind you, and we would say thank you for dinner as we lean in with a smile on our faces and give each other a kiss.
something that seems so mushy and lovey-dovey to most, is one thing that keeps us alive and fresh in our relationship. maybe it's because we have been through so much in such a short time that we don't over look the little things, but i feel its something that keeps a relationship, and even a family, alive and well.
time together is very important in any relationship. be it family, loved ones, or even just friends. doing the simple things in life such as preparing and eating dinner together at the table, are so much more important than going out to eat. preparing and eating dinner together has the ability to bridge that gap between people. sitting down and enjoying something you prepared together with your own hands has a way to remind everyone involved that you can find enjoyment in something so simple.
today we spend out times in front of electronics. be it the phone, TV, or computer. we don't spend the time to visit any more. we don't spend the time getting to know each other. people tell me that Brandon and i act as though we have been friends forever. they ask how we can have a relationship like that in such a short time. i feel its the simple times like this were all that happened. we don't take the little things for granted, we relish in them. we live for them each and every day. the half our in the afternoon laying down on the bed together, phones put aside, where we focus on each other and issues we need to talk about. we make sure each and every day we get our time together where the outside world is no longer a part of our lives. where the stress and hassles no longer mean anything.
as you sit here and read this i am sure many people have thought about the last time they sat down at the dinner table and ate as a family. i am sure many people have sat here and thought about how much they miss that. many of you are in the other room thinking about your table now full of papers and bills and trash. things that it's not intended for. today i want you to walk over there, clean it off, and prepare it for tonight. i want you to go to the store, pull out some chicken and let it thaw. tonight you are going to make dinner for your family. tonight you are all going to put everything away and just rekindle that relationship you once had. tonight you are going to build a bridge to bring you back together.
i know many of you have loved ones in the hospital for one reason or another. so rather than do that you are going to make dinner, pack up some silverware and plates. you are going to go to the hospital room and set up your own dinner table there. you are going to shut off the TV and enjoy each others company. because when you set that home cooked meal in front of them, they will forget about the wires and tubes for just a moment and remember what it was like to be a family. with today's world the way it is, you need this more than anything. you need this time together more than your iPhone, more than CSI, more than Facebook. you need to rekindle what you once had to remember just how important each of you are to each other. when you're done make sure you leave with a smile. make sure to say thank you to the ones who deserve it. be sure to lean across the table through out the meal for that simple kiss and i love you. it will go further and mean more than you will ever imagine. and as you pull away with a smile on your face, embrace that feeling. embrace the happiness inside and don't ever let it go.
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